This isn't an ultimatum, it's just a way to tell your partner what you want.We all want to feel like our partners are committed to us.Any commitments made with the absence of loyalty will appear to be nothing but hollow, broken promises.What if your partner has hinted, or even made it obvious that they have known other partners better than they know you.I want dating to lead to a committed relationship followed by marriage and kids; he doesn’t.Before the awkward goodbye-hug, he apologized for the misunderstanding.
Pre-conceived ideas or fears about commitment is understandable and is essentially preparing you to understanding the difference between promise and commitment.Putting the man in front of your feelings and needs may seem like the right thing to do at the beginning of a relationship (hey, don’t we all have irrational fears that aren’t attractive? Just because you don’t want to feel insecure, needy, uncomfortable and scared, doesn’t mean that you aren’t feeling that way.And chances are—if you feel these feelings in your budding relationship, he can sense them.Is this love, comfort, fun, and support or is this boredom?(There is boredom if true self has been submerged, conflict has been suppressed, and the lack of tension and increasing distance has killed the closeness.) RECOMMITMENT IS A LIFELONG, ONGOING, REWARDING AND GROWING PROCESS.“I’m only good for getting drunk and having sex,” he said.