We had talked a few times about faith, our families, hobbies—you know, all the normal stuff. If the person separated isn’t emotionally healed by God, then they will be upset when you can’t meet their emotional needs. The person isn’t emotionally healed from the marriage.Whether Christian or not, some have asked us, “Is dating allowed during marriage separation?” Of course, I always tell them it’s none of my business.But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else go back to him.And the husband must not leave his wife.”The above Scripture is pretty clear here that separation is allowed but not desired.Because dating is a precursor to marriage and is part of the process that we use to find a prospective mate, it is only logical to take into consideration the value and esteem a person places upon marriage, even one that may be heading towards divorce.If they will not value the sanctity of marriage even though their own marriage may be failing, then they will not value the sanctity of marriage in their next marriage.
“Is this a normal thing—to date when you’re separated? He received the news well, but I have to wonder if he walked away shaking his head at the last part of our conversation.
I froze for a while, not sure how to handle that news. I told my best friend the news over dinner and then waited for her reaction. Then I let him know we had to cut off communication, and I was praying for his marriage to be reconciled.
I prayed for conviction to hit this man’s heart for seeking someone besides his wife.
This is why we must stay prayed up, because God understands that we are "filthy rags" during our stay here on this earth.
I truly believe that its possible to spiritually connect with an individual while going through a divorce, however, God doesn't intend for us to take such a relationship and turn it in to what we feel is an act of God by saying God has put someone into our lives for any other reason other than his intended will.
However, I also realize the issue of dating during a marriage separation is a issue, and so needs to be talked about in the church in an honest, biblical and open way.