It turns out, the secret to finding love and commitment is not committing too soon.
So many of my clients ask me whether dating more than one man at a time is a wise idea.
Making a decision about a guy is no different than any other decision.
You weigh your pros and cons, you do your cost-benefit analysis, you use a little logic and a little emotion, and then make a largely arbitrary choice without knowing if you’re right.
Plus, isn't it better that I'm not committing to someone I'm not sure about than to commit too soon and still reminisce about rando boning? Aww, this love note you left on my pillow in the morning is completely cute but now I have to hide it in an old grocery bag I'll shove in my closet so the person I have coming over in an hour doesn't get offended by something they technically don't have any right to be offended by because it's only our third date. It is one thing for me to be dating multiple people, but I am supposed to be the most incredible person you have ever met, so much so that you cannot even fathom ever dating anyone else again as long as you live! The problem is that I really like both of them and they both seem to be really amazing guys.They follow up, they text, we talk, make plans…it’s all good. On the other hand, I don’t know how to manage this.Rather, my goal was simple: to find a guy I could date more than three times, hoping this would lead to a relationship.Frequently, men would drop out after one, two or three dates. I'm dating around so I can make sure I'm with the right person ultimately.