I don’t know why I continue to read certain news organizations’ content, websites or blogs, but I like to see what varying opinions are floating around out there on the Internets.I stumbled onto a so-called Black Women Empowerment blog called Black Women’s Interracial Relationship Circle (note the clever URL).Black women are still enscribed in community and are still analyzed as beings of the black community, community agents, black community bound, their destinies and lives to be traced out only within these confines and terms.BWE are willing to unyoke black women from ‘community’ if it will save their lives, keep them sane, prevent them from being worked to death, provide a measure of protection, ensure their resources do not become the possession of others, if it will enable them meet their dreams and goals.If he’s playing with no shirt, like he’s Morris Chestnut or Taye Diggs in a late 90s Black movie, he probably sucks. When driving up to a new court, I can take one look at the people playing and decide whether they’re worth my time.And if the shoes he’s wearing are not basketball-appropriate shoes, he probably sucks. Which gives me more time to leave and find a better group of guys to play with.The author, known as Halima Anderson, goes into a rant on how and why black feminists and womanists have turned their backs on black women.Just a little taste: If you look at most of the analysis for black women out there (whether they are by womanists, black feminsists etc), it still very much considers black women entities ‘the community’.
The author’s post, “The primary reasons why BWE are the real champions of black women,” caught my eye. Before yesterday, I would have guessed it was one of the aliases Ted Cruz uses when he trolls Craigslist to respond to Missed Connections. Although it seems like there are more dating sites and apps now than actual people actually dating. For instance, if you’re specifically into “thick redbones with good hair” — so much so that you feel the need to filter everyone else out — and you weren’t invited to a Knowles family gathering, Smoochr is the site for you. Blavity’s Tyler Young called it a digital paper bag test. You are aware of the colorism issues you referenced like 50 words ago, right? And how a dating site like this uses that history and that context and the latent insecurities and self-loathings cultivated by that history and that context to exacerbate those issues and make a profit from them? Playing pick-up basketball is still one of my favorite things to do.Now, however, I know it’s the name of a dating site targeted towards Black people. Basically, if Tariq Nasheed had a baby with Stacey Dash, and that baby was wrapped in old centerfolds instead of a blanket when it was brought home, Smoochr would be that baby. At The Root, Yesha “Call Me Eye-esha” Callahan questioned if we were being trolled and also referenced tech developer Elen Awalom’s #shutdownsmoochr campaign. Particularly when playing with a group of guys who know how to play.Famed orator, activist and abolitionist Frederick Douglass became one of the nation’s most revered figures during the pre-Civil War and Civil War eras.After escaping slavery, Douglass turned his attention to the budding abolitionist movement sweeping the North.While interracial relationships are not nearly as uncommon as they once were, we’d be lying if we said that the dating and marriage histories of some of the nation’s most outspoken black social activists didn’t come as a surprise to us.